I think when you stop giving a fuck about what other think about you and/or how they view you, you are truly set free. Yes, you are allowed to emotionally react to other peoples words and actions towards you. No, you are not obligated to take their feelings towards you upon yourself. Wear what you want, feel comfortable, feel beautiful, feel sexy, work hard, love hard, commit to thins and people in your life, and be nice to other people. In my opinion, that is true freedom. Become free, stop giving a fuck.